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Kids are taught that being wrong feels bad.
This book teaches them something better.

A picture book that helps children replace the fear of mistakes with curiosity, confidence, and self-compassion.

When children believe they must always be right, they stop asking questions and trying new things.

But exploring is where learning begins.

It’s Okay Not to Know shows kids that mistakes aren’t something to fear.


They’re the doorway to discovery.

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About the book

Bink feels something many children feel but rarely talk about.

The moment when you try something… and it doesn’t work.

Suddenly the voice appears:

Maybe I’m not smart enough.

Maybe I’m not good enough.

But Bink discovers something powerful.

 

Not knowing isn’t a problem; it’s the beginning of learning.

Through curiosity and self-compassion, Bink learns how to turn mistakes into discoveries — and how to treat themselves and others with kindness along the way. 

This simple shift can change how a child approaches challenges for the rest of their life.

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Why this book matters

Many children learn early that it's bad to feel wrong or not know something.

So they stop trying.

They stop asking questions.

They stop exploring.

But research on growth mindset shows that when children understand abilities can develop through effort and learning, they become more resilient and motivated.

This story helps children build that mindset early.

What kids learn

Through Bink’s journey, children learn how to maintain a growth mindset by:

  • Seeing mistakes as part of learning

  • Staying curious when things feel hard

  • Building confidence through exploration

  • Treating themselves and others with compassion

These lessons support social-emotional learning both in the classroom and at home.

What people are saying

I can't recommend this book enough!

Nothing cuts off a young child's curiosity faster than when they worry about making a mistake or don’t know something. In this brilliant book, preschoolers learn that it's not only okay to have an uh-oh, but it’s also a kind of blessed state, a ‘present’ in Do’s words. It’s an essential part of the journey of discovering ‘what is and what isn't.’ It's a message young children need to hear. I can't recommend this book enough!

-- Teacher Tom, author of Teacher Tom's First Book
  and Teacher Tom's Second Book

Educators and parents can use this book!

It's Okay Not to Know teaches kids that not knowing something is an opportunity to learn and inquire. Educators and parents can use this book to start or extend a conversation about having a growth mindset (I can't do that YET) versus a fixed mindset (I can't do that). Quality books that support this idea can be really beneficial in growing a child's confidence both in school and in general.

 -- Heather Craig, Mill Park Elementary School
   Principal

Open[s] the door for much needed social emotional learning

Do's new book teaches young children emotional regulation with easy, everyday activities, opening the door for much-needed SEL (Social Emotional Learning). Brenda Do has captured the essence of this in her new book. The use of repetition is essential for young readers. As a Special Education Teacher, the use of simple phrases makes it easy to incorporate into social skills lessons.​

  -- S. Selby M.Ed, Special Education Teacher

Young children learning in two languages will identify with the message

Young children learning in two languages in a Dual Language program will identify with the message in this beautifully illustrated book about looking at challenges as uncovering ‘presents’ when learning new things, and that it is perfectly okay for them to make mistakes, not know all the answers, and to tackle through inquiry the way things work.

 - Blanca Harvey, Dual Language Facilitator K-8,
  Biliteracy Instructional Coach

Opens the door for parents to have these conversations...I love this!

This story teaches kids that it’s okay to make mistakes and that good can come from them. My four-year-old quickly picked up on what was going on in the book and how the character felt. We talked about how he felt when he made a mistake, so Do opens the door for parents to have these conversations while enjoying a beautiful story. I love this!​

 -- Lourdes Gonzalez Torres, KSD Migrant Mental
  Health Therapist

This is a great addition to a young child's bookshelf!

This book uses simple language to give children options for turning mistakes into learning experiences and sharing their learning with others. The child-centered, repetitive wording is memorable for a little one, who can use it in their own explorations of their world. The engaging and brightly colored illustrations can capture a young book-reader’s attention. This is a great addition to a young child's bookshelf!

 -- Julie Thiel, Elementary K-2 Educator and Reading
   Specialist

A refreshing perspective on a critical developmental issue

The reframing of mistakes and inexperience as opportunities to become curious and to better understand “what is and what isn’t” is, for kids, a terrific antidote to all the misguided messaging they get about the importance of being the best, the first, the smartest, the fastest. It’s Okay Not to Know offers a refreshing perspective on a critical developmental issue.

 - Janet Sasson Edgette, Psy.D., M.P.H.

What a wonderfully endearing and rhythmic read!

In the highly pressurized world in which we raise our children of today, this simply and beautifully illustrated book reminds readers of the importance of mistakes as a vital part of learning, and the precious gift of self-discovery.  The author gently relays that ‘uh-oh's’ are like getting a present of childlike wonder, curiosity, and imagination, and that 'not knowing' builds the vital skill of supportive encouragement of self and others. What a wonderfully endearing and rhythmic read to help instill self-efficacy and empathy in our children!

 - Alayna Septon, Elementary School Counselor

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From the author

When adults look back on life, many say, “I wish I knew then what I know now.”

I wrote this book so children don’t have to wait that long.

Children are naturally curious. But the pressure to be right can slowly replace curiosity with self-doubt.

It’s Okay Not to Know helps children keep that curiosity alive — so they grow up believing they are capable and resilient, and are always learning.

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